Ehhh kind of a trait of cars with a higher number of gears. With all the 7 gears, sometimes the tranny has a hard time deciding which gear it wants to be in. This is a known problem on the 8 speed trannies in the newer BMW's. I had this problem on my 2009 FX35 and got my reflash done and it's alot better. Unfortunately there is no reflash for 2010 models since they already come with updated software.
It's just something to get use to though. Transmission is what it is. Since the transmission has a driver's learning algorithm (adaptive shift learning), it can only learn one person at a time. During that time it shifts gears depending on one's driving habits and learns from it. So if your wife drives like a granny and then you go drive like a maniac, the car isn't use to your more agressive driving style and use to your wife's more, so shift mapping patterns feel different and jerky. That's why some say to drive more agressively so that the tranny learns to shift more agressively and get use to you. I noticed my 2011 G37 sedan loaner the dealer gave me did this too cause different people are always driving it. Then after driving it all day long and abusing the hell out of hit, the jerky downshifts went away. Same goes for my 2009 FX also. Sometimes the car needs a good day or two to re-adapt to a different person.
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You can also delete the previous driver's driving style quicker by just disconnecting the battery, then go and take it for a spin yourself. You'll be amazed at the difference.